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Passport to Independence!

I figured out that there is nothing I CANNOT DO. It’s only that there are few things I WANT to DO no matter what and few no matter what, I cannot motivate myself to DO.

I stay close to those very few things I WANT to DO. And DO it, No matter what!


"Limitations need not restrict us from doing anything we really can do. Accepting our limitations is a matter of recognizing the border between:

- what we can and cannot do

- what we can do and is worth reaching for and what we can do but the value to us would not be as great as the sacrifice

This is not easy to do, and there is no set formula. But accepting our limitations can help us focus on what we realistically can and want to accomplish, rather than wanting to be or do everything."

Trying to figure out what I can and what I cannot!

Getting in Touch with God!

I couldn’t find a better title than what my brother has given in this article. He had visited this place last year. I visited this place this weekend. He has beautifully described the place and all that I want to say. He has left me with nothing much to add.

Brahmi Durga -

Editing to add this pic..which we took in the cave that is referred in that article.
We went atleast 1 to 1.5 km inside. Indeed a great adventure!!

Common Sense is...

To See. To Hear

To Look. To Understand.

To Observe. To Reflect.

The Virtue of Selfishness!

I couldn’t agree more on this with her. Every time I read, re-read and read these lines, innumerable times, I am filled with joy and tears flow out of my eyes without my knowledge.
Hmm here is a piece of text of my most favorite writer….

The virtue of Rationality means the recognition and acceptance of reason as one’s only source of knowledge, one’s only judge of values and one’s only guide to action. It means one’s total commitment to a state of full, conscious awareness, to the maintenance of a full mental focus in all issues, in all choices, in all of one’s waking hours. It means a commitment to the fullest perception of reality within one’s power and to the constant, active expansion of one’s perception, i.e., of one’s knowledge. It means a commitment to the reality of one’s own existence, i.e., to the principle that all of one’s goals, values and actions take place in reality and, therefore, that one must never place any value or consideration whatsoever above one’s perception of r…

Chess & Time!

Now, what does time mean in Chess? Time is not limited to the minutes on a chess clock. Generally, it refers to this chessic thumb rule: Try to gain time, and try to avoid losing it. Scenarios in which you gain time: If you make your opponent move a piece to a poor square, or back to where it came from, without making any concessions yourself, then you gain time. If you force your opponent to stop his plans and start responding to yours, you gain time.

When do you say you are ahead of time? If your pieces are better developed than your opponent’s, you are probably ahead in time.
If you have freedom and can do whatever you want, you most likely have the edge in time. But of you must wait to see what your opponent is going to do before doing what you’d like to, then cant do what you’d like anyway, you’re probably behind in time.

You also have a time advantage of you can attack and your opponent must defend. Having such superiority that is being able to att…

Manipulating ?

Well well well...Here's is somebody who is trying to manipulate me.
Why? : Absolutely have no clue!
How is he doing that: He talks as if he knows me!
How do I conclude he is trying to manipulate me? : If at all he knew me he should have known 2 things about me that I hate liars and flirts.
His very first line contradicts.

Some of you might have noticed my shout box…Here is a sensational and interesting conversation going on between me and the stranger (who calls himself to be “hi”).

Rathna: :)

Chella: Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii ! How is it going on Hope u remember me...
[ My friend’s friend with whom I spoke once. But was not able to talk again.
Did Mr. hi take this as a reference point? ]

me: d ya still flirt around?
[So here is comes with his very first line!]

Rathna: ??
Rathna: No blogging till aug 23! every one take care!
roshan: lovely site...
Seema: Hello Ratna are u in log out aux???????

Rathna: Hey thanks Roshan
Rathna: haha ....yes seema...similar kinda Aux
Rathna: Rather i would say...nothing …

Hey dude are cool!

I really want to appreciate this guy's Honesty and Will to return my flash drive!

I lost my flash drive 3-4 days ago in office. I only realized it after 2 days. Nobody has dedicated comps more than one person can share the computer.

This guy had left a sheet of paper with his name and number on it. I ignored it thinking it was the similar kind of paper a guy had left few months back that had his name and number to have friendship with me.

Next day I had left a note saying whoever noticed flash drive on this comp.. Please return it to either Rathna … (number) or S…. (Number…. my friend). I had a very important material regarding my GMAT on this and I just couldn’t afford to loose it!

That guy called up S…. also sent a message saying that flash drive was on top of the comp and he was seeing it since 3 days! (Ohh....I am such a fool…how could I not notice it!!?) And that he didn’t leave the message that flash drive is on the comp but left only number thinking somebody else woul…

A personal note to MySelf!

I am LETting GO of the uncontrollables and unchangeables in My Life.

I am realistic and rational and accept that I can change only my feelings and attitudes about things which I AM powerless to change.

I accept personal responsibility for my life, thinking, emotions, and actions. I take care of myself better. I stop being martyr, fixer, rescuer, advice giver, and enabler.

I allow my Higher Power a place in my life along with correcting my unhealthy, irrational and unrealistic thinking so that I can better discern what is uncontrollable and unchangeable in my life.

God, your Higher Power is stronger and great source of power to which I hand over things out of my control.

I will control what really matters and work my best in a particular situation.

I’ll cherish every moment knowing that I’m able and good person with my own unique values and I’ll wait eagerly what unknown future destination my life is taking me to.

Why me?

Hmm..have I told you all that i work for a Contact Center?What has made me stick to this field for so long?well...I love communicating to people. Be it with strangers or repeated customers.I worked with this person (He is the first person in the list among the pastor staff )say 3-4 days back. This issue was very simple. He was not able to visit only one website "Faith-Temple", but was able to visit every other webiste. He is a Pastor in that Church. All I need to do was just disable few add-ons and it resolved the issue. This person had called us couple of times before and it was just that previous technicians overlooked modifying add-ons. Today, I happned to make a call-back to this person to check if everything is working fine. I usually make all my call-backs myself. He was very happy that I was able to resolve his issue...He blessed me throughout the conversation on call and simply made me feel very special and that I have powers to do wonders. He appreciated my smile..h…


The best prophet of the future is the past!

We always see others’ behavior caused by their nature, ours by situation. We always like to take credit for success and deny failure.

We also blame others for our situations.

Who's to blame? Honestly, almost nobody is to blame. That's because almost nobody wishes you ill, even if they were curt with you, careless with your possessions or impatient with you in traffic.

Most people are simply doing just what you are doing...trying to get their business done and thinking about the next thing they need to do. They don't really wish you ill, nor do they wish you well. They are just too busy with their own affairs.

Who's to blame? Only the person who wastes his or her energy finding blame.

Buddha Pournima

Let yourself be open and life will be easier. A spoon of salt in a glass of water makes the water undrinkable. A spoon of salt in a lake is almost unnoticed. - Buddha

Every year this day, I will ask only one question to myself.

Why was I born on this day?

Is there some link missing?

If yes, what is that?

Thank you, mom

For all the strength & courage you give me,
For all the faith & Trust you have in me,
For dressing me down when I did mistakes,
For all the kudos from you for my silly and small achievements!

You are my super MOM, I Love You!

PS: My actual date of birth is yet to come :)

Unknown bonding …unknown blessing…

For a change this morning I had been to temple as momma wasn’t feeling well…She would go otherwise ;)I am goingto this siddhi vinayak temple from my 10th standard though not regularly.So what? Today a strange incidence happened. I was waiting for the priest to come to offer the flowers I had with me. While I was entering, a septuagenarian old man, started talking to me saying why I wasn’t coming to temple often and why I was not seen for so many days. I was initially skeptical with whom was this old man talking to. I asked him: “Are you talking to me?” He said: “Yes, of course you”. He started talking to me as though he knew me from many years and was saying that I always have seen you when you come here and you never talked to me. But Today I made up my mind to talk to you. I was really surprised! I have never noticed that man observing me. Hmm…I was still skeptical as to why this old man was talking like this? Puzzled look!

We spoke for about 10 minutes, after which he himself said t…

Lamha Lamha

I have heard this song Lamha Lamha (both duet and male version) from Gangster for about more than 2-3 hundred times no exaggeration!
Its still stuck on my mind!

Though I dont want go by the context of the movie, I feel the lyrics and song is just so romantic and beautiful.

Abhijith has once again stolen my heart with this song! I was surprised sunidhi could suit this song!

lamha lamha doori yun pighalti hai
jaane kis aag mein yeh shabnam jalti hai
ho lamha lamha doori yun pighalti hai
jaane kis aag mein yeh shabnam jalti hai
khwaahishon ki shaam dhalti hain - 2
jaane kis aag mein yeh shabnam jalti hai
la la la ...

teri aankhen dikhati hai
hamein sapanen sitaaron ke
ho ho ho
tere hothon pe likha hai
jo tum bole ishaaron mein
ho ho ho
khwaabon ke karwaan mein raat chalti hai
jaane kis aag mein yeh shabnam jalti hain
la la la...

behakti shaam aayi hai
tujhe lekar ke baahon mein
ho ho ho
tujhe chhu loon ke rakhu main
chhupakar ke nigaahon mein
ho ho ho
sharmati ithlaati hai machalti hai
jaane kis aag mein ye…

Thank you, GOD!

I really want to thank you so much God!

For, you are always on my side,

Thank you for being with me and by my side all the time!

I simply want to appreciate all the grace you have on me.

For, I consider myself very graceful & Safe under your aegis!

My Cab just met with an nasty accident, while coming to office this morning.
Not even a single scar on me or my cab mates and that cab is smashed like anything, but still we are safe.
I am still surprised, I AM ALIVe!
I am glad, I AM ALIVE!

Should I call this my first meeting with Death or a New Lease to life!

Be strong!

Be strong! The sign of life is strength and growth. The sign of death is weakness. Whatever is weak, avoid! It is death...

If you want to have life, you have to die every moment for it. Life and death are only different expressions of the same thing looked at from different standpoints; they are the falling and the rising of the same wave, and the two form one whole.

-Swami Vivekananda

How can one bad experience completely shake the belief system in a person? Right from the childhood and adolescence we believe many rosy things about love. We feel proud to be in love! An attitude that makes us do anything and everything for a person whom we love.

One fine day one of them leaves the other and just goes off...either gets married to or gets in relationship with somebody else.

What should the person left behind do?
Should one loose faith in love and say love is all cr…

Letter to myself!

Dear Self.

I just want to tell you how much I value you. Without you, I would be nowhere. It is through you that I know God. It is through you that I know others. It is through you that I know my world. It is through you that I know myself.

When all else leave me, who will be there to guide me? When all else lose faith in me, who else will believe? When all others are against me, who will be on myside?

Thank you for being me. During my very short stay on this planet, let's be bestfriends.


I remember the last time I took life seriously was in my 12th standard. My ambition was to become a doctor and specialize in heart surgery. I really wanted to get a distinction and top the class so that I get a medical seat. On the contrary it so happened that due to the excess tension and peer pressure, I got Low BP and I got dismal score in my exams.

I just couldn't accept this and made my life miserable by thinking about this all the time. But this has taught me one thing. Not to take life very seriously.
My life has become easier now because I got out of my own way; I started to take fewer things so seriously and remember that really very few things in life are in my control. The rest of it sort of happens, and my job is to recognize opportunities and navigate through them.Happy navigation.!

Trust & Vulnerability

Do you really trust somebody?

You don't trust somebody until you make yourself vulnerable. Trust is both emotional and logical act.

Emotionally, trust is about giving control to another person, expecting that they will take good care of that control on your behalf.

Logically, it is where you have assessed the probabilities of gain and loss, and concluded that the person in question will behave in a predictable manner. In practice, trust is a bit of both. Whether in a personal relationship or a businessrelationship, trust means vulnerability.

We trust because we have experienced the trustworthiness and because we have faith in human nature. We feel trust.

Does trust start sounding scary? You bet it does! Does the alternative to trust sound even scarier? You bet it does!

Life in Full Circle

Just a few months ago I met my school crush working in the same company as mine. I thought it’s a mere co-incidence that this happened. But right after 3-4 months after I met my school crush I met my college crush working in my company. I felt as if all my school and college days came right before my eyes and stood still mocking at me to check how much I am transformed.

I was a silent admirer of my crushes. I never expressed what I felt for them. That was simply because whenever I was in front of them I used to feel that weakness in the knees and my face was masked with "Shy". Things that were common in both were that they were very good dancers, they knew how to steal the show and smart.

But when I met them at my work place, I never knew where all that weakness in the knees and shy went off. It was all about a Confidant eye contact with the firm handshake.

There is nothing in this world that stands still be it difficult situations or very happy situations. Everything has to ch…


You know that you should never let criticism get the better of you. Don't let someone else control your sense of self-worth.

By the same token, don't let praise get the better of you. After all, you alone should control your sense of self-worth.

Of Late, I am getting too many compliments about my voice...usual ones are "your voice is too sexy" have a very swweeet voice etc etc…There has to be one or two compliments everyday!

Well, though it’s a very good thing to compliment about my voice...I think I need to have control on my sense of self-worth and not let myself be always on that top of 7 hills :-)

Happy Valentine Day!

How much can one person love another? A universe exists in time and space, Placed within the boundaries of one place, Pressed into a point far from forever. Yet love comes to us from some quite other, Visiting our sorrow with its grace, Answering our rage with its embrace, Lending us the wisdom of its wonder. Even as I say this, you are there, Nestling in where need undoes the day, Taking up your small infinity. Inside my window, you are everywhere, Nor could I tell how much such love might weigh, Even were it salient as the sea.




Is there a difference?The difference is 100% in how you approach it. Isn't everything in life like that?

Good or bad Holiday?

4 days and watched 6 movies! Am I crazy? gotta figure it out.. :)
Two weekends and 2 weekdays off...took off to study for GMAT actually...but did only 30% of study and 30% of sleep and rest of the while..whiled away!

Movies I watched: Kalyug, Rang De Basanti, Family(Good decent movie), Aksar, Mere Jeevan saathi, and Jawani Diwani. Last Saturday watched Zinda.....

Well, I am too confused to write any testimonials about movies I watched.

How Is Your Inner Child?

Your Inner Child Is SurprisedYou see many things through the eyes of a child.
Meaning, you're rarely cynical or jaded.
You cherish all of the details in life.
Easily fascinated, you enjoy experiencing new things.

How Is Your Inner Child?

What pattern is your Brain?

The Following appealed to me the most!

Your Brain's PatternStructured and organized, you have a knack for thinking clearly.
You are very logical - and you don't let your thoughts get polluted with emotions.
And while your thoughts are pretty serious, they're anything from boring.
It's minds like yours that have built the great cities of the world!

Your Brain's PatternYou have a dreamy mind, full of fancy and fantasy.
You have the ability to stay forever entertained with your thoughts.
People may say you're hard to read, but that's because you're so internally focused.
But when you do share what you're thinking, people are impressed with your imagination.

What Pattern Is Your Brain?


I love this quote from Bette Davis:

You will never be happier than you expect. To change your happiness, change your expectation."

Finding happiness is like finding yourself. You don't find happiness, you make happiness. You choose happiness. Self-actualization is a process of discovering who you are, who you want to be and paving the way to happiness by doing what brings YOU the most meaning and contentment to your life over the long run.

True happiness is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.
-This famous quote on happiness by Helen Keller

Hope is itself a species of happiness, and, perhaps, the chief happiness which this world affords.
-This quote on happiness by Samuel Johnson

Happiness is man's greatest aim in life. Tranquility and rationality are the cornerstones of happiness.
-The meaning of happiness according to Epicurus


Hmm….And here goes tagging …. For whatsoever reason, this sounds to be an interesting tagging. Anil, Thanks for tagging me to this. Rules of the game are …1. The tagged victim has to come up with 8 different points of their perfect lover.2. Need to mention the sex of the target.3. Tag 8 victims to join this game & leave a comment on their comments saying they’ve been tagged.4. If tagged the 2nd time, there’s no need to post again. PERFECT LOVER hmmmmm....... 1. He should be handsome, winsome, considerate, intellectual, and smart.
2. He should have a good sense of humor. 3. He should be honest, sincere, loyal, faithful, peaceful, passionate, happy, and prosperous.4. He should be strong (esp. mentally), powerful, very masculine, adventurous, loving, and successful.5. He should be disciplined, have a rich positive peaceful attitude, affirmative, assertive, straight forward, and understanding.6. He should be sensible, knowledgeable, confident and responsible.
7. He should sing/play my f…


My only best friend S….n is leaving to Mumbai. She married to her sweetheart last year who has relocated to Mumbai now. So she is leaving o Mumbai in few days. She is my school friend. I know her since 7th standard of my school days. But we weren’t great friends when we were in school. I was with a set of other friends whom I am not even in touch of today. Were they just my companions during my school days? Could be…! School days are definitely fun, but I guess the strong relationships can be built during the matured state of mind.

There were so many times when we just fought because one used to score more marks than the other and vice versa. It was all about proving “I am the BEST” than building any friendship.

Sometimes situation used to get simply worse. We used to play pranks on each other and also get scolding from our teachers. Not always though: P

S….n’s and my friendship flourished only after our school days were over.
I joined college but due some personal reasons she discontinu…

Bad beginning!

It’s been almost a week after New Year! Nothing is working at my end. I have been fooling around with time like anything.

I had to spend my New Year’s Eve at my work. After my shift was over by 3.30 am in the morning, I was in my cab that drops me home everyday with two other cab mates who were in the same drop route as mine. While we were on the way to home, on the Hosur road, an accident had already happened and the worst thing was we had to pass that accident. It was a horrifying scene that has just stuck in my mind. The head and the body were apart. I have never witnessed an accident or had seen one. And that too on the first day of the year!

I am trying to get out of this now. First is I am trying make myself believe or pretend as though I have never seen that incident. But this scene is horror-stricken in my mind. Just won’t go!

Followed by this was the CAT disaster, which left me wounded with no calls! Then I decided to take up GMAT. And now it’s already a week over from this year…

HaPpY New YEar!

I'd rather be a could-be if I cannot be an are; because a could-be is a maybe who is reaching for a star. I'd rather be a has-been than a might-have-been, by far; for a might have-been has nevër been, but a has was once an are.

- Milton Berle, 1908-2002, American Comedian known as "Uncle Miltie"