Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Self-Esteem

You know that you should never let criticism get the better of you. Don't let someone else control your sense of self-worth.

By the same token, don't let praise get the better of you. After all, you alone should control your sense of self-worth.

Of Late, I am getting too many compliments about my voice...usual ones are "your voice is too sexy"...you have a very swweeet voice etc etc…There has to be one or two compliments everyday!

Well, though it’s a very good thing to compliment about my voice...I think I need to have control on my sense of self-worth and not let myself be always on that top of 7 hills :-)

20 comments:

still_figuring_out said...

really? sexy voice is cool :)

ok, now climb down from the hils ;)

coolvir said...

Hey your blog is toooooooooo sexy ;)

White Forest said...

@ still_figuring_out - thanks ..yeah i am trying to come down to the earth :D

@ coolvir - :)

Anil The Great said...

wf : a very strong point has been brought out, which can shake the very root of our existence.
I read "The Fountainhead" and the best thing which I understood was to never let someone else judge you
and that judgement should not affect you, it should help you in imporving yourself, if you find the
point logical else ignore it. Never get sad or happy coz someone just simply praised you.

What happens is that if you start relying on others judgement then you actually become slave to others.
You feel happy when they praise you, you feel sad when they deride you, so you behave like a slave to them.

So,its very important that we hold a strong base where we know who we are and strive to improve us based on
the genuine responses and not plain flattery or derideness.


Thanks Rathna for bringing out such an important point !!

-ATG

rebel_on_loose said...

"your voice is too sexy" !
Well thts among the best compliments 1 can get!
:)
Nice Blog!

Prithi Shetty said...

Hmm .. yes. But then, why not enjoy the see-saw of it all ?

khelnayak said...

All I wanted to say is very well covered by ATG. :) And I do know your voice is great. :p

White Forest said...

@Anil - Thanks for that grave response :)

I too am a fan of Ayn Rand ..:) Try reading Atlas shrugged too!

And one more thing to back your point....We had a brief meeting with our Rev gen manager..lately..was newly appointed.. he was explaining something to which I added few points...he started telling me I am brilliant ..intelligent and stuff ....but I discovered that ..that's how he talks ..for every 10 lines he speaks he adds you are brilliant ...intelligent!

So I feel one should never rely on others praising or derision unless there is some meaning in it...

@ rebel_on_loose - Thanks Manhar :)

@ Prithi - Believe me I am enjoying it too :)

@ Khelnayak - Thanks Amar...:)

(But you never told me after you spoke with me :| )

Unknown!!! said...

hey...really good post and more than that...all those who commented above were awesome....learnt a lot...hmm i some how get carried away when some one derides...

DENZIL said...

Sexy Voice... A Nice compliment indeed... I guess you can take it...

But sometimes there are flirts who shower you with compliments... In this case a simple suggestion for you...

Oye Rathna... Chane ke zhad se utariyo... utariyo... (Sing it to the tune of Oye Raju... Pyaar na kariyo...)

Unknown!!! said...

hey rathna u in "Grenoble, Rhone-Alpes, France"???

Neha said...

good voice.. now thts nice.. do u sing well too? :)

White Forest said...

@unknown - Thanks
YEah when when someone derides about you...all you can do is think about it for a sec or two...if you find it sensible and reasonable try to work on it to improve yourself...if that derision is just out of jelousy..you know waht to do....;) just ignore it ...

No I am from none of these places you mentioned :) just curious ..why you guessed so ?

@Denzil - Thanks :)

@neha - Well...I was singing during my school days...my friends used to like my singing...I wish I should have pursued it ..I could have participated in one of the hit comptetitions like Sare gama pa or Indian Idol..;) neways ..now it so happens that..I can sing for myself or just friends..i cant when there is competition :)

Unknown!!! said...

wow u a singer also....great!...few days back. on my bday i was asked to sing..i was reluctant..finally rendered a song..thats it they regretted for asking me to do that..;)
.and abt the guess.... ya i have this webtool which tracks the last webpage before my blog and the geo-location of the user... . it showed me ur blog..ok then mebbe some fan of urs from that place checked my blog....

Shikha said...

Once I had a real bad cold and my voice changed overnight..and I got compliments for my husky voice..but I didn't stop myself from revelling in the praise..and three days later again overnight my voice became the same old..tata to husky:))

Vanathi said...

Good post about self worth...

White Forest said...

@Unknown -> May be :)

@Shikha -> yes it happens :)

@Vanathi - Thanks :D

Neha said...

hey no updates!

Ash said...

that's a nice way to keep the flattering from getting too much involved with the leaping heart!!!.....
cya
Ash

White Forest said...

hey neha ....still in the composing mode :)

@ash - very true and nicely put :)