Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Be strong!

Be strong! The sign of life is strength and growth. The sign of death is weakness. Whatever is weak, avoid! It is death...

If you want to have life, you have to die every moment for it. Life and death are only different expressions of the same thing looked at from different standpoints; they are the falling and the rising of the same wave, and the two form one whole.

-Swami Vivekananda

How can one bad experience completely shake the belief system in a person? Right from the childhood and adolescence we believe many rosy things about love. We feel proud to be in love! An attitude that makes us do anything and everything for a person whom we love.

One fine day one of them leaves the other and just goes off...either gets married to or gets in relationship with somebody else.






What should the person left behind do?
Should one loose faith in love and say love is all crap and that there is no love in this world? Don’t you think the belief system one has since many years has taken a beating?

Doesn’t this show how weak a person is?

One strong wave came and hit the person who is sailing in the boat or say a storm prevailing violently in the ocean destroyed one ship. Will one stop sailing and choose to loose the scenic beauty the ocean and the sun setting in the ocean can give us. Am sure given an opportunity none of wants to loose that sight!

It is the same with not only love but also with other belief system a person has like trust, honesty, etc...

I repeat the question "How can one bad experience completely shake the belief system in a person?”

For that matter "Love" is the same. It never alters itself. It’s only we that add something (may be a good or bad experience) to it and make it divine or satanic!

I only feel that "The sign of life is strength and growth". If one looses wealth...one will try making more money and make sure invests it properly and be sure that the same mistakes doesn’t happen. I know money and love are two different things. But the strategy is the same I guess!

Every person has enough love in him/her. Love can never become less or more. But only the experiences which a person goes through makes a person hide or express love.


19 comments:

White Forest said...

Got it as one of the offline messages..

When u feel u r alone in a crowd.....When u feel no 1 can understand u....When ur love is rejected by others....& When u hate ur life.... Just close ur eyes & see her face who loves u more than anyone else.....who cares for u in loneliness & dies for u when u cry.......she is no one but ur sweet loving MOM.....Love her more than anyone else in this world....Bcoz only she was, is and will be there for u all the time.... Pass this message to every one u know, if u love ur MOM

Ekta said...

Hey white!
I personally belief that our belief systems are probably as good as our last experience. Our belief systems are based on our experiences and as experiences change they change too.
I dont think its got anything to do with being strong or weak--its basically what u have seen and how u interpret these!
Just coz someone doesnt believe in love anymore doesnt mean he is weak--simple means he may not be ready for it yet!

Jewel Rays said...

A great post. Something everyone walks pass in life. Well i guess it also depends of one's immaturity level when you talk about belief system. IF someone leaves the other party just with tears to cry and a broken heart than getting over the bleeding that start should be the overcoming factor. It will take time. After a bad experience, we learn lessons. sometimes it steals the trust completely but sometimes it teaches us the bad and good stuff. but when a cut is fresh all we want is to discard or condemn it cause it hurt us so much. but there is such thing as revival when time passes and heals all wounds. a smile may arise and a chance may be taken again with a smarter heart. this is what i feel i guess. wonder if i am feeling ya post right. :)

Jewel Rays said...

i meant "maturity" level ..haha..Oopsy! :)

Neha said...

beautiful post!

be strong.. hmm.. well yes, setbacks happenbut we have to get over them.. we have to live, we have to love.. to love and to feel loved we must first learn to love ourselves..

White Forest said...

Ekta -

"I personally belief that our belief systems are probably as good as our last experience. "

But do we believe in soemthing that is destructive for us...dont we try to recover or try to get over it?


"I dont think its got anything to do with being strong or weak--its basically what u have seen and how u interpret these!"

I agree....but it shows a person to be weak/strong by the attitude one chooses.!

Just coz someone doesnt believe in love anymore doesnt mean he is weak--simple means he may not be ready for it yet!

message straight and clear :D

White Forest said...

Thank you Amy....:)

I was trying to help someone very close here for which even i dont know wat to say!

"After a bad experience, we learn lessons."

So very True :D
Very important to learn lessons from setbacks and bad experiences...

After all we are here to face some....learn lessons and move on :)

"revival when time passes and heals all wounds"

Thats sounds so soothing!

"a smile may arise and a chance may be taken again with a smarter heart."

Thats a wonderful jewel ray of yours..beautiful line. A ray of hope....a ray of light!

White Forest said...

thank you neha :)

hmmm...very strong lines there!

Ellipsis said...

Not sure if this is appropriate here, but I'm reminded of this poem by Szymborska, which I was reading last night :-)

White Forest said...

Ranj ...Thats such a wonderful poem!

Meenu said...

Hi ... that was really nice one .. n so is ur blog .. cool

White Forest said...

Thanks meena :)

Jackal said...

nice post white.......

Unknown!!! said...

hey white...again a great post..i liked ur first comment also...every time u write ..u write soemthing very common..which we see every day,...but u put things very different...am ur fan!...
..
Guess after those 2 movies...u didnt got for any...
take care....

White Forest said...

Jackal - Thank you :)

Thanks for dropping by my blog!

White Forest said...

Unknown - Thank you so much :D

I am glad

...you made my day :D

Well i did watch 3 movies this weekend ..couldnt update! :)

DENZIL said...

I will only say "Love with all your heart... but Don't expect anything in return..."

Hearts break when you start expecting something in return... Just GIVE... and GIVE.. And I promise your heart won't break ever..

White Forest said...

Thats was really awesome!
I completely agree...

But do you see a point when a person gives gives and only gives...and the other just leaves off ...
One would still want to give....but give to whom ?

If i were...i would be shattered into zillion pieces!

White Forest said...

I found this text relevant to post here :)

If you Find yourself in Love with someone who does not Love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to Rest in the other person's heart...

If you find someone else in Love with you and you dont Love him/her, feel honoured that Love came and called at your door, but gently Refuse the gift you cannot Return, do not take advantage, do not cause pain...

If you fall in Love with another, and he/she falls in Love chooses to Leave, do not try to Reclaim it oR to assess bLame, Let it go. There is a Reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time...

Remember that you don't choose Love, Love chooses you. All you can Really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your Life. Feel the way it fiLLs you to very flowing, then Reach out and give it away...

How you deal with Love is how you deal with yourself, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys as you, even if our Lives and ways are different...

The first blush of new Love is filled to overflowing, but as their Love cools, they revert to seeing their Love as need. They cease to be someone who generates Love & instead become someone who seeks Love...