I dont want to be a Perfectionist!!
I have received innumerable emails and comments on as to why I haven’t been blogging for so long. Few messages were very sweet and some were compelling me to write. Thanks for all your Love and Affection friends. I apologize for coming up with this after SUCH a long time. Though I was compelled to write something…I simply couldn’t. I blame it all on ‘myself’ for that. 
I was into a deep introspection and it was very much necessary at this point of time. What is and who are very important in my life?
Who are the people I need disassociate with who suck all the energy out of you? And associate more with who can add value into your life? Ultimately the time and again asked question … how can anyone forget this question when one is into the introspection?? : P What is the ultimate goal or purpose of my life? What is the strongest ambition that I have?
We all do something or anything for that matter to make ourselves or someone happy. And if someone is a perfectionist like me, he or she will suffer big-time. I never do things which I am not too good at.
I feel singing is something I would love to pursue but I feel I am not competent enough for tha
t! Hence I never sing…except to sing for myself or my friends.
I only realize when my friends tell me that I am good at something …otherwise I think I am futile or no good. That doesn’t mean I enforce things upon my friends and keep asking them to tell me what I am good at and what I am not good at. The least I expect from them is to praise me for what am good at…I am not obsessed with what I have nor I am cribbing for what I don’t have. I feel I have enough and I don’t make use of what I have. Yes, you got it right. I am not tapping my energy and potential right .I don’t start things on my own… I need that initial push as to the momentum that can get me started or even try things which I am not very confident about. But that may not be the case always. I have to understand myself better and be confident, which I lack sometimes due to the compelling nature of being a perfectionist.
I am not boasting about myself at all …These are some of the short-comings of mine that I have realized and I need to work upon. I don’t want to keep this into my heart and crib anymore. I can completely feel that I am not using my potential to the maximum. I am either suppressing it or not letting “myself” out and provide myself the opportunities which can make me realize my potential…wait, wait, wait…opportunities???

But don’t you think there are many opportunities in what ever you want to do?
I am afraid that I will be lost in the competition. There should be some way to kill this competition and the only way is to be perfect in what you do. Back to square one. I am stuck in this vicious cycle of being a perfectionist in whatever I do.
Can someone tell me that “It’s OK. You are a human. You have the right to err.”? Of course yes, but not to repeat those mistakes again!
I thank myself for having few motivating people around me to tell me that it’s OK. Participation is important than being good. Few months ago my company conducted a SuDoKu Championship. I had no plans of participating. One of my colleagues had seen me solving puzzles sometime. He casually suggested me to take part in the SuDoKu Championship. I was hesitant. I always thought I am a Novice. But somehow convinced that participating is no bad I took part in it. I got through the first screening after solving 5 puzzles. 2 were very hard but it had no time limit so I could solve them. Second round had some 15 people short listed. This time there was a time limit and who ever solved first was to win the prize. The competition started, after a while I saw 3-4 people handing over the papers and leaving. I thought I have lost it. There is no need to solve this let me just leave… I am not going to win anyways. But a subtle voice in me told me …so what if you don’t win…there is a challenge here …I want you to solve these puzzles. It had 5 SuDoKu, 2 hard 3 very hard. Somehow I did it at last. I was the 5th or 6th one to leave the room. With the satisfaction that at least I solved the puzzles I left the room. To my surprise I got the 3rd place.
It’s not necessary to be perfect or excellent in whatever you do to WIN. I believe its persistence that gets you a WIN almost ALWAYS. SuDoKu is something that I practice not very often than I practice chess…I guess my passion is more towards Logic (SuDoKu numbers) than is towards strategy (Chess) :P (Practice more?)
I feel like a caged pigeon. I want to fly. Fly like “The Seagull – Jonathan Livingston”. Not to be a perfectionist but to love and enjoy each and every bit of my journey towards being a perfectionist. Love and enjoy each and every bit of my journey from perfectionist to excellence. I hope I will never reach that state of perfectionism or excellence. There is always room for improvement and plenty of room for learning.
This is no END. I have found an alternate way out. Identify all the energy drains…close the caps forever! Do things little by little. Step by step. Enjoy the journey. And the Journey Never Ends… At least not until I am Gone!

I was into a deep introspection and it was very much necessary at this point of time. What is and who are very important in my life?
Who are the people I need disassociate with who suck all the energy out of you? And associate more with who can add value into your life? Ultimately the time and again asked question … how can anyone forget this question when one is into the introspection?? : P What is the ultimate goal or purpose of my life? What is the strongest ambition that I have?
We all do something or anything for that matter to make ourselves or someone happy. And if someone is a perfectionist like me, he or she will suffer big-time. I never do things which I am not too good at.
I feel singing is something I would love to pursue but I feel I am not competent enough for tha

I only realize when my friends tell me that I am good at something …otherwise I think I am futile or no good. That doesn’t mean I enforce things upon my friends and keep asking them to tell me what I am good at and what I am not good at. The least I expect from them is to praise me for what am good at…I am not obsessed with what I have nor I am cribbing for what I don’t have. I feel I have enough and I don’t make use of what I have. Yes, you got it right. I am not tapping my energy and potential right .I don’t start things on my own… I need that initial push as to the momentum that can get me started or even try things which I am not very confident about. But that may not be the case always. I have to understand myself better and be confident, which I lack sometimes due to the compelling nature of being a perfectionist.
I am not boasting about myself at all …These are some of the short-comings of mine that I have realized and I need to work upon. I don’t want to keep this into my heart and crib anymore. I can completely feel that I am not using my potential to the maximum. I am either suppressing it or not letting “myself” out and provide myself the opportunities which can make me realize my potential…wait, wait, wait…opportunities???

But don’t you think there are many opportunities in what ever you want to do?
I am afraid that I will be lost in the competition. There should be some way to kill this competition and the only way is to be perfect in what you do. Back to square one. I am stuck in this vicious cycle of being a perfectionist in whatever I do.
Can someone tell me that “It’s OK. You are a human. You have the right to err.”? Of course yes, but not to repeat those mistakes again!
I thank myself for having few motivating people around me to tell me that it’s OK. Participation is important than being good. Few months ago my company conducted a SuDoKu Championship. I had no plans of participating. One of my colleagues had seen me solving puzzles sometime. He casually suggested me to take part in the SuDoKu Championship. I was hesitant. I always thought I am a Novice. But somehow convinced that participating is no bad I took part in it. I got through the first screening after solving 5 puzzles. 2 were very hard but it had no time limit so I could solve them. Second round had some 15 people short listed. This time there was a time limit and who ever solved first was to win the prize. The competition started, after a while I saw 3-4 people handing over the papers and leaving. I thought I have lost it. There is no need to solve this let me just leave… I am not going to win anyways. But a subtle voice in me told me …so what if you don’t win…there is a challenge here …I want you to solve these puzzles. It had 5 SuDoKu, 2 hard 3 very hard. Somehow I did it at last. I was the 5th or 6th one to leave the room. With the satisfaction that at least I solved the puzzles I left the room. To my surprise I got the 3rd place.
It’s not necessary to be perfect or excellent in whatever you do to WIN. I believe its persistence that gets you a WIN almost ALWAYS. SuDoKu is something that I practice not very often than I practice chess…I guess my passion is more towards Logic (SuDoKu numbers) than is towards strategy (Chess) :P (Practice more?)
I feel like a caged pigeon. I want to fly. Fly like “The Seagull – Jonathan Livingston”. Not to be a perfectionist but to love and enjoy each and every bit of my journey towards being a perfectionist. Love and enjoy each and every bit of my journey from perfectionist to excellence. I hope I will never reach that state of perfectionism or excellence. There is always room for improvement and plenty of room for learning.
This is no END. I have found an alternate way out. Identify all the energy drains…close the caps forever! Do things little by little. Step by step. Enjoy the journey. And the Journey Never Ends… At least not until I am Gone!
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And it always should be like this. Nobody is above you and nobody is below you.
N i guess i had a wonderful eve the otherday with you and Anil singing all the while!
** And if someone is a perfectionist like me, he or she will suffer big-time
Me too...and thats why we suffer alot I think.
Like u said its best to take one step at a time...lets both give it a try ha. Good luck n hugggggggz!
And hey WB!
Keshi.
When I feel like writing, it comes and when I feel I have to write, I fall totally blank.
well no one is Perfc'nst(think so)
situations mk a person Strong..
its nice to hear that Ther are Good Motivators and friends to be with you at times of Depression..nice..pics..nice blog dear..good day.
Very true u state in the end of ur post there is always space for improvement, no one perfect in this world and our journey towards improvement is endless...
Nice piece of writing,best of luck!
Takecare
that is really amazing!!
i cant do Sudoku at all. too difficult lol
i feel like a caged animal too sometimes.
but it is safe not to get outa cage :)
Thank you for visiting my blog ( although Hemingway is the one I work on now).
I'd love to play chess with you & chat all night about philosophy :)
And Thank You ..
Glad you popped by my blog, I will be back .
Sure do let me know if that works :P
thanks :)
~ hey Priya,
yeah very much true...when you dont feel like writing ...better refrain!
~jac
i din get you ....so do you mean you are a perfectionist? :P
~ hi Pankaj
yeah i know...no one is perfectionist..but if one always strives to be one ...and doesnt want to do things one is not perfect at ..one may never do other things wat he/she likes... nobody is born perfect!
n thanks ... :)
~ hi Samrina,
thanks :)
~ hi niki,
thnaks ..
"i feel like a caged animal too sometimes.
but it is safe not to get outa cage :)"
lolz ...comfortable zone huh ?
~ hi backpakker
"we are the prisoners of our emotions ..the key to the cage is in your hands"
yeah very true...we get stuck in situations that we create!
~hi Pecos blue
lolz ...wat song are you refering to ?
~ hi Jeanne
Thanks for your blessings :)
you are always welcome
~ hi nikon
thanks..
oh cool ..will try to visit the other one too!
Sure...i'd love to talk philosophy all night while playing chess... :)
~ hi starry nights
thanks dear
yeah i know some ppl find difficult vearing perfectionists..i agree its difficult!
persistence for sure pays!
~ hi Inspired
Thanks :)
~ hi utopia
thanks a lot!
~ hi queenie
welcome...and thanks!
btw, we all have our doubts in our abilities...it's the initial fear of not living upto one's expectations...and one is more conscious about it if one expects more from other people...
but, once that initial fear is surpassed then no one can stop you...
What ever they do, they do it perfect... just before being the master, they leave it.
They know everything but they don't become masters. That is not perfectionism you know ?
Mari-Nanci
:o)
it's okay. just LIVE.
u should just spread ur wings...
Keshi.
pretty butterly and bird icons, that. :)
Thanks for visiting my blog!
"For a while she flew only when no one was looking"
Time to fly while the whole world looks on.
Thanks for visiting my blog.
great post!
'Not to be a perfectionist but to love and enjoy each and every bit of my journey towards being a perfectionist.'
the essence of life!
I really appreciate your kind visit and I’m so happy you got me this possibility to read your blog. Love it.
I started my today’s morning with your blog and it was my wonderful time.
Thanks!!!
Peace and Love be with you!
Your post was very insightful. And being a perfectionist i too find myself in the same state as you. & finally i found out a solution for myself. I don't know whether it is coincidence or what but the solution is also the same as yours. In fact i just wrote about it on my blog. :)
Why don't you write often?
Plz return.... :)
thanks for stopping by!!
lolz..I am no cusp..May 18th
vow thats very insightful lines...
~ hi Jac
Ohh i see ...now i got you!
is it similar to jack of all master of none ?
~ smilnsigh
thanks... :)
~ Ghost Particle
thanks ...very true...i guess everyone comes aross certain phase of life...some may be early soem a lil later...but inevitably everyone has to cross that phase i guess!!
~ hi neha...
welcome netime :)
~ illusion
thanks ...yes very much Life is all about living :)
~hi Keshi
vow that was very insightful!
thanks i'll try to!
The never ending story unfolds
Each Day a new begining till we are gone
and then who really knows where it is we go or whether weare no more.
Somewill insist there is no more
Otherswill insist there must be much more
And then there are those who'll insist whatever it is we do, is just a challenge, and there must certainly be more
Good to see you back in action.
That was a beautiful self-dissection. At times it is essential to introspect, to align our personal and professional goals. Good that you have done justice to yourself. May all your dreams turn into deeds and materialize:)..
you have really inspired me with this wonderful post of yours....
I'm not gonna quit so soon...
Thanks and hugs,
-Aiz.
Anyways, its nice to see that you've found your path, and are on your way to flying high!
And the bird and butterfly are great effects! Some positive energy :))
One of my many gripes in life is not having any ethical power to remove qualified persons who become laggards or procrastinators who drag the chain without any consideration for others, who we refer to in my country as bludgers.
A pleasure to read your posts, you remind me of another sweet person with similar ideals, who has commented here.
But these 'caps' tend to pop out frequently (due to 'loss of focus') so one has to ensure they stayed capped every time ('continual focus') I recall the times when a motivational post or talk inspires you to change some aspects of your life, we implement the change but we seldom manage to sustain it......and those who mange to do so enjoy the journey till the destination.
The best thing about this post is (as mentioned by others too) one can so easily identify with it.... :-)
Keep 'em coming
keep going...
u feel so dull, listless and drained ... start with a step at a time ...
competition can get real bad , and leave u with a lot of guilt as well ...
but it's ok .. if u know what u want and dont bother abt the consequences , u'll be fine
Good post
Cheers
Chanced upon ur blog and realized that we worked together in the same co.. ccc... dont know where you still wrk here..
until later..
regard from Catalonia Spain
thank you