Tuesday, September 01, 2009

People come into your life for a reason

Sometimes people come into our lives for a reason. They could be someone whom we meet everyday or sometimes friends who are there for a particular purpose to be met and phew they are gone. We don’t even realize they are gone. We don’t need them anymore or all the time.

People who come into our life for a season could be a soul mate or a spouse who may be in our lives for lifetime. Or someone like teacher, master or friends who are there for certain period and they just leave once we are good to go.


I know a friend, we studied in same school till 10th and we studied together for exams I and II PU, and later I don’t know what happened. She just stays couple of blocks away. Sometimes her mom comes to my place and vice versa, but we don’t get to meet. Neither of us have made any effort to meet I guess! I still haven’t been able to figure out what just happened between us. She was my best friend.


People of lifetime relationships are friends or may be ex bf’s and gf’s :) who give us life time lessons but are there for a very short period of time. There may be lifetime relationships for lifetime also, parents and friends who are there to constantly support us when we need them.


I mean...it’s very difficult to classify people this way. I don’t think we ever do...do we?

For us to know what to do for that person, we need to know whether a person has come in to our life for a reason, a season or a lifetime and we may never be able to classify until the person is gone from our lives. We may never realize which category the person is in when he or she is in our life. It looks like some kind of circle to me.




To simplify things…to treat everyone nicely as they long as the person is in your life and don’t regret or grieve when the person is gone - is the message I take from this one!

And as my friend SS says "the key is to make a difference to the other's life and to treat the person in his/her presence most valuably" (Ok... I am totally smitten by this line :P) supported by The story of 3 Questions (Click).

Perhaps I was gone out of blogging only for a season :)



PS: Here is the text played in the video in the left.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed
They have come across to assist you through a difficulty
To provide you with guidance and supportTo aid you physically emotionally or spiritually
They may seem like godsend and they are…
They are there for the reason you need them to be
Then without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end

Sometimes they die Sometimes they walk away
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand
What we must realize is that our need has been met our desire fulfilled
their work is done
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON
Because your turn has come to share, grow or learn
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh
They may teach you something you have never done
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons
Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation

Your job is to accept the lesson, Love the person and put what you have learned
To use in all other relationships and areas of your life

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant
Thank you for being a part of my life
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

38 comments:

Hobo ........ ........ ........ said...

Attachement is Good but it pains when they are gone forever.

Annie said...

I too wrote about friendship this week. I've noticed it as a theme at several blogs recently. Yours is so deep and thoughtful.

The happiest thing I've discovered about friendship is that no matter your age, you can make a new friend. I think women especially do this. We seem to have a need for the moral support of our sisters.

I've also learned that friendship is the most ephemeral and fragile of relationships. As you said, friendship can just pass away and you don't even know it's gone. And if you see that it is gone, you don't necessarily know why.

I love the friendships of my maturity that I've made in the past few years. I know that I've chosen, and been chosen, well because of the wealth of self-knowledge and experience I've brought to those forming friendships.

Ralph said...

I have never believed in coincidences - the reason things happen I usually cannot fathom. But as I reflect on events past, the so often right thing has been the result. I just do not see why something happens now, but it becomes clear at a later date. Plenty of examples, I may post about these someday...

Janie said...

Thank you for your visit to my blog. I am so glad you dropped by so I could visit yours. Your blog is beautiful and inspirational. Thank you for offering that to share.

Vicki ~ FL said...

I agree with Hobo....it does pain when they are gone forever.

Glennis said...

Nice to have friends for any length of time what ever the reason or season.
I love the little bird my curser becomes on your site!

Keshi said...

ty for kind words in my blog WF! :) Was lovely to see ya after a long time.

I like this post, it's very true.


**…to treat everyone nicely as they long as the person is in your life and don’t regret or grieve when the person is gone

it doesnt happen most of the time. we always realise the value of a person ONLY after they r gone. its human nature, unfortunately.

LOVE
til we meet again...
Keshi.

Small City Scenes said...

Everything we do is for a reason--even if we don't know it at the time. It is there sometimes hidden and sometimes we can figure it out but none the less there is a reason.

I like your avatar. MB

Kavi said...

Very nice blog you have here, and wonderful post too !

It is about people and connections. Thats what makes the world go around...!!

White Forest said...

~ Hobo ...
thats so true ... the more you are with the person the more you get attached, the worst part is when, the more you try to avoid, the more you start missing or feel the attachment for that person..

~ Annie...

that could be bcoz the freindshipday was in August :)
but i had totally forgotten abt it when i was writing this post!

Thank u for your kind comments.

so true annie... esp we women feel the need for moral support though all that a person has to do is listen to wat we have to say and who can tell us ... dont worry ..i am with you :)

thats so wonderful of you...i have been lucky that way too :)
feel blessed to have friends who can support me when i need it the most!

White Forest said...

~ Ralph..

that simply needs lot of patience to see the chain of events and understand finally watever happened is for our best...but the in between time is sometimes unbearable...

sure ...will await for that post..so we can relate :)

~ Hello Janie...

Hope you are doing gud :)
I am usu curious to know wwats happening in the blogging world...and when i come across something intersting, i leave my comments :)

Thank you for your kind comments!

Have a nice day!

lisaschaos said...

I have some friends from childhood that I wish I could find again. Like you said though, some people just seem to pass through.

Donn said...

Without this device I would have lived my entire life without hearing your voice. Blogging is magic.

Certainly there is an art to seeing past our "impression management" out here..although I like to be as mentally nekkid as possible in the hope that others will reciprocate. We don't have a lot of time to play games..I can't follow the 150 blogs on my list as closely as I would like and those that comment obviously get more attention.

It is so cool to meet new people..don't get me wrong it's awesome to see old cyber-friends..
makes the world go 'round...
but when you get a new caller you are reminded of the enormity of the blogosphere.

People do come in and out of season..as I am doing now..but the residual goodwill never leaves me. I love the knowledge that I have connected with someone on the other side of the world..if only for a moment.

Mumbai Guy said...

After 10 clicks, I finally managed to get in your comments page. You seem to have put in lots of effort to arrange this blog of yours.

Yes, people do come in our lives for a reason. There are lots of times I thought some person would be very good or my best friend only to disappoint. And there are many times I thought some person would be very difficult after knowing them I found them actually cool.

Dont know why and how that happens, but that is true of people coming in way our lives.

Ghost Particle said...

hey!

Rathna, finally i get to know your name...or was is blissfully ignorant from the start?


how have u been, i tell you something. the reader has killed blog hoping and commenting, but all are read...so nice to still be in touch without communication :)

reasons for coming and leaving are many, essentially we are sharing our lives with many others. and at many times, we have to let go of the bond for they go to another soul for some reason better we hope. and when we least expect, they come back :)

so stay tuned, life is calling all the time. nothing is lost forever they say, in happiness or sorrow, some magic happens to lift you up.

thank you for the kind comments :)

-ghost

Margie said...

How very nice to see you posting again White Forest & it was a joy having you visit me again.

This is a great post!
It really has me thinking about how important it is to treat our loved ones & friends in the sme way we want them to treat us!.
That is the best way to live one's life and then we have no regrets when they might leave our life in one way or another.
Maybe they might leave by choice or sadly through death.

Joy & love to you!

Margie:)

SaffronSaris said...

Hi White Forest, thanks for dropping by SaffronShots. Been a while since I last posted new entries, but I do agree the pictures are beautiful--seeing them in person is even more awesome!
:)

Pins N Ashes said...

Hey Rathna...

beautifully expressed... something poetical in the way you have written there is a rhyme to the whole post...

people indeed comes into our lives for a reason whether it is for a season or a lifetime...

Ash

White Forest said...

~ Vicki ~ FL …
Hey Vicki…that’s true…its painful when they are gone forever and even more when we know for sure that they have gone forever

~ Glennis …
Thank you :) And yes only that the attachment factor shud be as minimal as possible

~ Hey Keshi…
Thank you…nice to see u here.
That’s so true…but that may be too late by the time we realize.

Love u too!
Make it a grt day! :)

Ekta said...

lovely post!!!
And ur right...at the end of the day...hope to have no regrets!

Shikha said...

Welcome back:)

Ria said...

yes i had recieved this thing as a forward on email. Really liked it coz its so very true.

Steve E. said...

What an interesting blog--I read the whole story of the king and the hermit. And if you had not visited and commented on my blog (Thanks!) I maybe would never have found yours.

Yes, I certainly believe God has a plan for every one, and every act

PEACE!

Talking To My Soul said...

Rathna, there is a purpose behind everyone's entry in our lives. Sometimes we understand it sometimes we dont. That does not really matter. does it?


Thanks for visiting my blog. Yours is a cool one. White and calming.

Do return again.

*cheers*

Shadow said...

i like the feel and the words of your blog... keep writing!

Wanda said...

I so relate to your post this morning...I believe it was sent to me for a reason...having just discovered a bit earlier a friend has taken down her blog...left me with so many questions!

Thank you for the post...and visiting my Blog.

Swatantra said...

That is very true!!

I read this long back but it sound so beautiful the way you have written it.. Lovely and inspiring!!

You have a nice blog, specially the picture on top matching to your name...

Thanks for the visit to my blog, hope to see you again at my other blog also.. Thanks again!!

Princess said...

hi friend,

what a lovely post to remind us of one of life's rules or shall i say lesson..

loved the lyrics of the song as well.. and keep blogging..

-Aiz.

VickY said...

treat people nicely...that's what i do. :)

thanks for dropping by.
tc n hugs

Heavenly Muse said...

yup....all whole life depends upon this mutual relationship...

cyclopseven said...

Life is a cycle, periodically renewed and charged. It wears the same clothes that fits our mind, yet it shows differences in expansion and constriction. Expansion gives us a temporal relieve, before constriction comes and steal that. Law of life is indefinitely definite and beyond time. To harness the mind to embrace the fitting mold is the way to fight the emotional cold.

Life said...

hmmm....i am here for life time not for season :)

take care
Vikas{v}

Known Stranger said...

I wrote this post in my personal blog on

Saturday, January 03, 2009

RSL
A R E A S O N A S E A S O N O R A L I F E T I M E


People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. ( I heard this first when I was dating a Assame friend from IIT during 2002. She used to keep saying this and used to tell let time deciede if you are a friend for a reason or season or a life time.)

When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.



When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this Person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.



When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But only for a season.



LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

There are many friends who had come in my life for a reason, season and on due course turned to be a Known strangers yet few remain with me amidst all the discomforts , fights, arguments, misunderstanding etc and I really celebrate them. I also been in others life for a reason and season and in very few lives remaining for life time. Time will reveal if the life time will remain for a life time or wither as seasonal or reasonal friend.

All kind for friends are required for growing . One should know whom we should hold for a life time and whom to let free. Holding a nonwilling person would only bring grief upon oneself . Vice versa is also true.. We should also know to let some one free as well as set oneself free to enjoy the relationship. 2007-08 taught me the lesson to let some one free as well as set myself free from many to whom I am a friend for a season and reason and not for life time

Vinod R Iyer said...

I believe Needs gives rise to people coming in and going out of one's life.

Nice write up !

Innocent Devil....Yet not so innocent ;) said...

Hi Sweetie.....this was a very sweet blog....esp for me....i dont really know what to write...just that keep writing

Unknown!!! said...

Its been ages you wrote..
I hope you are doing good
take care

Anonymous said...

this post is very soothing..thank you for making me understand the 'FACT'..:)

Nabeel's Cosmos said...

I hope the reasons are good and their intentions are honest